Pat Fitzgerald, 67, has long loved being a Catholic, and the part he loved maybe most of all, for the past quarter-century, was his role as a spiritual mentor at retreats for students at a church-affiliated high school in Indianapolis, where he lives.
But he has been told that he’s not wanted anymore. His crime? He publicly supported his daughter, a guidance counselor at the school, after its administrators moved to get rid of her because she’s married to a woman.
The school’s treatment of Shelly Fitzgerald, 45, was a big local story last summer that went national; she ended up on “The Ellen DeGeneres Show” in September. It was one of many examples of Catholic institutions deciding almost whimsically to exile longtime employees — not priests or nuns but coaches, teachers, counselors — who had long been known to be gay but were suddenly regarded as liabilities.
Maybe they had quietly married their partners, formalizing those relationships and inadvertently drawing attention to themselves. Maybe some homophobic parent or congregant had belatedly learned about them and lodged a complaint. That’s what happened to Shelly Fitzgerald, and her 14 years of fine work at Roncalli High School no longer mattered. Only her 2015 marriage to her longtime partner did. She was told that she could stay on if she dissolved the union. She said no thanks and was kicked off school grounds in August.
The aftershocks still complicate the lives — and faith — of people around her: her students, their parents, her dad. On Facebook last month she posted a letter from him to the Roncalli community in which he explained that he’d just been disinvited from future retreats but thanked everyone for being such supportive friends over the years.
“Today my heart is broken,” he wrote, adding that the retreats he’d participated in — more than 40 in all — were “the most beautiful and holy settings I have ever witnessed.” He alluded only vaguely to his daughter’s case. “To people on both sides of this ongoing issue,” he wrote, “I hope you can find peace.”
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But there’s no peace for the Catholic Church here. It’s too mired in its own hypocrisy. The tension between its official teaching and unofficial practice — between the ignorance of the past and the illumination of the present — grows tauter all the time.
Most Catholics support same-sex marriage, in defiance of the church’s formal position, and many parishes fully welcome L.G.B.T. people. Yet there are places, and times, when the hammer comes down.
Church leaders know full well that the priesthood would be decimated if closeted gay men were exposed and expelled. Yet the church as a matter of policy bars men with “deep-seated homosexual tendencies” and considers gay people “objectively disordered.”
Catholics are supposed to show compassion. Yet Shelly and her dad were shown anything but.
She has been on administrative leave since August, and last month her lawyer, David Page, filed a charge of discrimination against the school and the Archdiocese of Indianapolis with the federal Equal Employment Opportunity Commission. It has up to 180 days to respond.
On Tuesday morning he showed me paperwork for a second charge of discrimination that he said he would be filing imminently; it cites what happened to her father as an unlawful act of retaliation meant to dissuade Shelly from pressing her case.
Pat Fitzgerald, uncomfortable with media attention, declined to speak with me, preferring to let his daughter do the talking. “His struggle comes from caring about Roncalli and being in conflict with what they’ve done to me,” Shelly told me. In October he attended a protest against the church’s treatment of L.G.B.T. people. His sign said, “Please treat my daughter Shelly kindly.”
There is, by many accounts, profound anger and hurt at Roncalli. As it happens, Shelly was one of two directors of counseling there; the other, Lynn Starkey, 62, is in a same-sex civil union and in November filed her own charge of discrimination with the E.E.O.C., claiming a “hostile work environment” in the aftermath of Shelly’s departure. For now she remains on the job.
Many students started an L.G.B.T. advocacy group, Shelly’s Voice, that also attracted parents and other adults in the community. A related Facebook page, Time to Be a Rebel, has more than 4,500 members.
But one parent told me that students who question Shelly’s dismissal fear repercussions. “Seniors are being told that if they speak out, they take the chance of not being able to graduate,” the parent, who spoke with me on condition of anonymity, said.
According to posts on the Facebook page, a small cluster of Roncalli students were invited last month to a lunch with Archbishop Charles C. Thompson of Indianapolis, only to have him stress that homosexuality is a disorder and its expression sinful. One student called it an ambush.
For comment on all of this, I contacted the Roncalli principal, who referred me to a spokesman for the archdiocese. The spokesman sent me a statement that said that Pat Fitzgerald’s exclusion from student retreats reflected the “continuing attention surrounding his daughter’s suspension” and “his own participation in public protests over Catholic Church teaching.” He was still welcome at Masses, the statement said.
In regard to Shelly’s suspension, a past statement from the archdiocese reiterated what the Catholic Church has said in similar cases: Employees of Catholic schools are expected to live in compliance with church teaching. But is that legally enforceable?
Shelly’s E.E.O.C. complaint tests where federal civil rights law covers sexual orientation, a matter on which courts in different areas of the country have disagreed. Also, the Catholic Church has attempted to claim a “ministerial exception” from nondiscrimination laws that conflict with religious tenets, but there’s continued dispute about whether this applies to workers, like Shelly, who aren't in the clergy.
Shelly pointed out that the Catholic Church isn’t generally going after teachers who flout its rules by using birth control or divorcing or having sexual relations outside marriage. “They’re going after L.G.B.T. people,” she said. “They’re going to die on this hill.”
And they’re going to hurt people — like Shawn Aldrich, who attended Roncalli, just as his parents and his wife and her parents did. He has two children there now. What has happened to Shelly astounds him.
“She was phenomenal at her job,” Aldrich told me. “So why are we dismissing her?” He knows what church leaders say about homosexuality but noted, “It’s our church, too.” Besides, he said, “All of us are made in God’s image.”
He and his wife plan to end their family tradition. They won’t send their third child, now in seventh grade, to Roncalli. “And that breaks our hearts,” he said. “That absolutely breaks our hearts.”
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【且】【不】【说】，【这】【些】【勇】【士】【进】【山】，【南】【却】【是】【转】【身】【回】【到】【了】【石】【屋】【内】。 【一】【点】【点】【都】【没】【有】【的】【光】【明】【在】【外】【界】【洒】【落】【着】。 【淡】【淡】【的】【余】【光】【照】【射】【着】【石】【屋】，【淡】【淡】【的】【浮】【现】【出】【里】【面】【的】【景】【象】，【顺】【着】【南】【的】【眼】【光】【望】【去】。 【却】【见】【一】【根】【根】【一】【人】【高】，【半】【米】【宽】【的】【石】【柱】【立】【在】【哪】【里】。 【只】【见】【石】【柱】【上】【雕】【刻】【着】【莫】【名】【的】【花】【纹】，【南】【走】【上】【跟】【前】【轻】【轻】【地】【抚】【摸】【着】【那】【些】【花】【纹】。 【仔】【细】【一】【看】，【只】
【想】【想】【自】【己】【曾】【经】【做】【的】【那】【些】【事】【情】，【好】【像】【确】【实】【挺】【傻】【的】，【执】【着】【于】【不】【该】【执】【着】【的】，【最】【后】【伤】【害】【的】【也】【只】【是】【自】【己】。 【而】【林】【静】【美】【离】【开】【图】【书】【馆】【之】【后】【便】【一】【路】【匆】【匆】【的】【回】【到】【了】【她】【暂】【时】【居】【住】【的】【属】【于】【王】【大】【伦】【的】【房】【子】【里】。 【现】【在】【的】【王】【大】【伦】【和】【朵】【朵】【住】【在】【朵】【朵】【的】【公】【寓】【里】，【这】【间】【房】【子】【他】【已】【经】【完】【全】【不】【涉】【足】【了】。 【而】【在】【知】【道】【朵】【朵】【生】【下】【了】【自】【己】【的】【孩】【子】【之】【后】，【王】【大】【伦】【也】【就】
【白】【唐】【唇】【角】【泛】【起】【一】【抹】【浅】【浅】【的】【笑】【意】，【望】【着】【人】：“【盛】【先】【生】，【害】【怕】【吗】？” 【盛】【祁】【望】【着】【人】，【唇】【角】【泛】【起】【一】【抹】【浅】【浅】【的】【的】【笑】【意】，【用】【力】【将】【人】【抱】【紧】。 “【我】【觉】【得】【你】【可】【能】【一】【直】【对】【我】【有】【什】【么】【误】【解】。”【他】【的】【声】【音】【轻】【轻】【的】，【却】【带】【着】【一】【抹】【浅】【浅】【的】【温】【柔】，【听】【起】【来】【只】【让】【她】【觉】【得】【心】【里】【说】【不】【出】【暖】。 “【什】【么】【误】【解】?【我】【的】【盛】【先】【生】【不】【是】【弱】【不】【禁】【风】【吗】？【不】【是】【需】【要】【保】【护】手机查看开奖结果直播“【放】【下】！” 【一】【声】【怒】【吼】，【天】【地】【跟】【着】【轰】【鸣】。 【声】【势】【浩】【大】【到】【无】【法】【形】【容】，【仿】【佛】【是】【那】【巨】【大】【的】【獬】【豸】【神】【像】【吼】【出】【来】【的】，【足】【以】【震】【撼】【一】【界】【的】【声】【音】，【不】【管】【是】【獬】【豸】【族】【还】【是】【修】【行】【者】，【全】【都】【心】【神】【猛】【震】，【无】【法】【控】【制】【自】【己】。 【连】【陆】【戮】【都】【跟】【着】【受】【到】【了】【冲】【击】，【心】【神】【一】【颤】，【整】【个】【人】【都】【滞】【住】【了】。 【一】【只】【手】【悄】【然】【落】【在】【刀】【身】【上】，【轻】【轻】【一】【捏】，【就】【把】【刀】【抓】【了】【过】【去】。
【谁】【也】【不】【知】【道】【封】【南】【杰】【为】【什】【么】【突】【然】【扔】【筷】【子】【走】【了】，【封】【老】【太】【太】【这】【叫】【一】【个】【尴】【尬】。【但】【是】，【封】【南】【杰】【行】【事】【乖】【张】【也】【不】【是】【一】【天】【两】【天】【的】【了】。【她】【仍】【是】【笑】【眯】【眯】【地】【说】，“【不】【管】【他】，【他】【是】【吃】【饱】【了】，【他】【是】【猫】【食】，【我】【们】【吃】【我】【们】【的】。” 【封】【行】【烈】【深】【深】【地】【看】【了】【慕】【奕】【一】【眼】，【慕】【奕】【眨】【了】【下】【睫】【毛】。 【吃】【完】【晚】【饭】，【封】【行】【烈】【出】【去】【接】【电】【话】，【封】【老】【太】【太】【就】【拉】【着】【慕】【奕】【在】【客】【厅】【中】【拉】【家】